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Rejection or coincidence? |
Rejection, you are no ladies man Darkath |
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Darkath Registered User
Joined: 07 Aug 2002 Location: Portland, OR Posts: 639
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Posted: Thu Dec 18, 2003 11:07 pm Post subject: Rejection or coincidence? |
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OK, so basically I have to get this out of my head before I explode
Situation: My friend Chris asks me Tuesday (12/16) if I want to go see Return of the King this Saturday (12/20). He is already going with another friend of mine, and ALSO, the girl I LIKE. Today, I tell the girl I like that Chris invited me. She was excited about it and wanted me to come, and I was joyful the rest of the day (this is me today --->>> )
Problem: About 8:15 PM today, my friend Chris IMs me and says "Lizzy (girl I like) isn't coming". So now I'm like 'WTF'. I asked Chris why she couldn't come, and her excuse was "My sister and I are huge Lord of the Rings fans, and whenever we see it, we see it together, and she doesn't want to go, so I'm not going"
So right now I'm like and at the same time because I get the general feeling she cancelled because of me. I feel like she ripped out my heart, poured liquid nitrogen over my already frozen organ (I've faced rejection many times before, it's kind of made me a cold person) threw it as hard as she could, and it smashed on the ground into a million pieces.
She is not the type of person to do something like that to other people, so I am debating whether or not to be or
My question to you: Rejection or coincidence (she's telling truth)? _________________
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ROOFCUTTER Server Admin
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Posted: Thu Dec 18, 2003 11:08 pm Post subject: |
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pssttt ask her...
psssttt ask her sister
pssssttt ask her cousin
psssssttt go have fun and maybe you meet someone new and exciting
Good discreption on the anguish part of your post
which organ is that agian?? _________________ Only in America......do they have drive-up ATM machines with Braille lettering.
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Replica Server Admin
Joined: 01 Jul 2002 Location: i'm a loner dottie, a rebel! Posts: 6144
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Posted: Thu Dec 18, 2003 11:12 pm Post subject: |
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i live by the " bathroom door" philosophy, made up by myself. why ask someone outside if/who is in the bathroom when you can knock on the door yourself and ask them yourself. jsut ask, from the looks of the story there was no rejection to be had. if you like her... show it and ask _________________
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powdermilkman Diplomat
Joined: 04 Jan 2003 Location: Good Ole Jackson, MS Posts: 1790
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Posted: Thu Dec 18, 2003 11:15 pm Post subject: |
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Darkath seriously you can't really think she rejected you can you? No no my friend she is more than likely telling you the truth. I a lot people are wierd like that and want to see something like a movie with someone cause it is like a special bond i.e. your romantic interest and her sister. Don't give up hope man..i hear the movie kicks ass so why not go see it again and ask her to go this time...ask her to go out after the movie etc.. etc...the bottom line is that she didn't reject you don't give up hope. If she was happy to hear from you and that you were actually going there is some chance...so go with it man and let me know how it turns out.
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Azrael Registered User
Joined: 21 Nov 2001 Location: Cuba, you got someting to say about dat mang!?!? Guild: TVB Posts: 1196
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Posted: Thu Dec 18, 2003 11:22 pm Post subject: |
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Heh, I marked rejection just because I could. Actually, I think it would be a little of both, but not in the way you're thinking. Was there a rejection made? Yes. Was it most likely directed solely at you? No. Obviously being of the male species (A.K.A. not psychic) and not knowing this girl at all, I couldn't even be close to being sure about this. But if you say she's not the type of girl to do something like that, then she probably isn't. Sisters often have wacky ass traditions they do with each other, and the one she described really didn't sound wacky at all, so it's entirely believable. She might have had a momentary lapse in memory, so she made the date with you guys to go watch the movie. After remembering her sister, she probably felt really bad about it and cancelled.
But the one thing you should remember is this: When in doubt, ASK! If you never ask this girl out/for some coffee/whatever, then she will most likely never go out with you anyways. There's some kind of old ass mumbo jumbo saying that says "Faint heart never won fair lady." Basically it boils down to "Pansies don't go on dates". If you dig this chick, then ask her out. If you don't think she'd go out with you, then ask her out anyways. going through some kind of episode because you don't know is pointless and disheartening. If she says no, well, at least then you know, and knowing is half the battle! _________________ Under construction!!! |
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Chen Kenichi Registered User
Joined: 15 Dec 2001 Location: DFW Posts: 1136
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Posted: Thu Dec 18, 2003 11:22 pm Post subject: |
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I think you're thinking too much about it lol. It's like when people laugh, you think they're laughing at you, although there is no reason to justify the thought.
Her excuse sounds reasonable to me. I suppose it was the same way with my best friend and Matrix: Revolutions (nice sig and avatar ;p ). We both love the Matrix movies, and neither of us saw the movie before the other, even if the opportunity was there. If she and her sister are really both huge LotR fans, you have no reason to worry. If like CoB was throwing a concert here I probably couldn't go without VP since we're both CoB fans (assuming he'd want to go). _________________
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Speaker's Xeno Registered User
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Posted: Thu Dec 18, 2003 11:24 pm Post subject: |
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i tried to post earlier but it said i couldnt
edit: now i have to write that paragraph thing i wrote b4. the jist of it was sh*t happens coinidence is the keyword of today. something about have ur friend ask her sis if she wants to come along so that lizzy will go too. enjoy the movie in the company of someone u like and just have fun. i mean ive been rejected by a girl cause she said she didnt want to go out with me because she was my neighbor and already saw enough of me with out going out. i mean how much of a shot in the heart was that then she goes out with my friend the next day and i see them making out u felt like and i was like so all in all just give it a shot
man i just depressed myself.
now this the shorter version of what i wanted to write but i cant remember all of it. it had astrology in it and zodiac signs but i dont feel like going back into that and writing a page on why sh*t happens and that u should try again and keep at it
edit2: i read the other posts and all i can say is they are right go for it
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Spanish Warpig Registered User
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Posted: Thu Dec 18, 2003 11:44 pm Post subject: |
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u were not rejected she did not cancell because of u she cancelled because of her sister. she is much more attaached to her sister than she is to u so when her sister dint want to go, her not going was the obvious decesion. just like i could have gone at midnight opening day with u but waited till today cause i wanted to see it with my bro and all u guys. _________________ And Pig ponders, Why do people play HW when they know I'm just going to shoot them in the head?
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GellyRoll Registered User
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 12:24 am Post subject: |
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Well i have to say as being a girl that i dont like canclling on my friend that wants to see the movie with me, but also im total boycrazy so i would go with her and you. All girls are differnt. Ask her though youll feeel better trust me i told guys i like them and i felt way better about it. If it is the case that she was rejecting you then thats not the type of girl you wanna be with thse are the real big b@#%^& if you ask me i know alot about this bullcrap things they call popularty or school. I liked a Guy alot and he used me as a rebound and i new it and i didnt care. Then when he was gonna come over to my house he annoyed me because he got back with his girlfriend. (i know how you feel i felt like he had punded my head aganst a brick wall for a month). It took me some while but i got over him and im doing pretty fine. Just talk to her. Trust me on this one.
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Replica Server Admin
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 1:02 am Post subject: |
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Spanish Warpig wrote: | u were not rejected she did not cancell because of u she cancelled because of her sister. she is much more attaached to her sister than she is to u so when her sister dint want to go, her not going was the obvious decesion. just like i could have gone at midnight opening day with u but waited till today cause i wanted to see it with my bro and all u guys. |
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Pornstar Registered User
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 3:24 am Post subject: |
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Female Rejection Lines
10. I think of you as a brother.
Translation: You give me the creeps.
9. There's a slight difference in our ages.
Translation: I may as well be dating my dad.
8. I'm not attracted to you in 'that' way.
Translation: I don't want to be seen in public with a dork like you.
7. My life is too complicated right now.
Translation: I'm busy seeing other guys. Who are you again?
6. I've got a boyfriend.
Translation: I'd rather be with my male cat and a half gallon of Ben and Jerry's.
5. I don't date men where I work.
Translation: I wouldn't date you if you were in the same solar system, much less the same building.
4. It's not you, it's me. Translation:
It's you.
3. I'm concentrating on my career.
Translation: Even something as boring and unfulfilling as my job is better than dating you.
2. I'm saved, so my heart belongs to Jesus.
Translation: I've sworn off men like you.
1. Let's be friends.
Translation: I want you to stay around so I can tell you in excruciating detail about all the other men I meet and go out with. I appreciate the male perspective.
Top 10 Male Rejection Lines
10. I think of you as a sister.
Translation: You're ugly.
9. There's a slight difference in our ages.
Translation: You're ugly.
8. I'm not attracted to you in 'that' way.
Translation: You're ugly.
7. My life is too complicated right now.
Translation: You're ugly.
6. I've got a girlfriend.
Translation: You're ugly.
5. I don't date women where I work.
Translation: You're ugly.
4. It's not you, it's me.
Translation: You're ugly.
3. I'm concentrating on my career.
Translation: You're ugly.
2. I'm saved, so my heart belongs to Jesus.
Translation: You're ugly.
1. Let's be friends.
Translation: You're totally ugly. |
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FragFailure Registered User
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 5:44 am Post subject: |
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It could always be worse (a famous phrase of mine btw.) You could have some below average woman with two kids at work. She first hits on your friend who's married by just flat out giving him her number. Next you could have her hitting on your other friend who's engaged. Finally she starts talking to you (suddenly interested.) Try that one on for size! That's being wanted! I think it screams somewhere "Hi, I have two kids and I'm desperate for someone to take care of my kids and get me sex0r! You interested?" Somewhere SilverOne is doing a big fat LOL saying to himself "Chris, that shit only happens to you!"
I AGREE!
If there's one piece of advice I could give. DON'T EVER BE SHY! Otherwise you'll get to deal with being #3!
So you see Darkath. It could always be worse/more amusing. _________________ Yes, I'm still around
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SilverOne Server Admin
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 8:02 am Post subject: |
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FragFailure wrote: | Somewhere SilverOne is doing a big fat LOL saying to himself "Chris, that shit only happens to you!"
I AGREE!
If there's one piece of advice I could give. DON'T EVER BE SHY! Otherwise you'll get to deal with being #3!
So you see Darkath. It could always be worse/more amusing. |
That is exactly what I thought! hehe
Darkath,
To me, it doesn't seem like she rejected you. Don't worry about it, and don't show her that it bothers you either. Because if you show it really upset you, that can lead to problems especially if this deals with her sister. That can instantly turn her off.
If it comes up in a coversation in the future. Just tell her you really would liked to have seen her. Which is the truth right? Sounds good too.. hehe
Relax!! And like Frag and others said, don't be shy ever. Be confident in yourself. _________________
"STOP FLAPPIN' THE YAP AND WATCH THE LANGUAGE" ~Blue Ruler
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The Nanite Server Admin
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 8:14 am Post subject: |
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If it happens once it's a coincedence, happens twice... Like Az I marked rejection because I could. _________________
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Hamese Server Admin
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Posted: Fri Dec 19, 2003 10:21 am Post subject: |
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This is SIMPLE.
If you like this girl more than the movie you will. Cancel going to the show and setup a time that you could go with all four. If the sister doesn't want to go..... kidnap her and only release her after watching the movie with Liz. _________________
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